by The Fitness Diva
Are Friends and Family Sabotaging Your Weight Loss?
You've embarked upon a diet and exercise plan, and you're psyched up and ready to give it your best. However, the only one who seems supportive and happy about it all is you. Your spouse continues to pack the fridge with fatty foods and sugary drinks, making a point to eat fast food and calorie rich treats in your presence, your friends seem to only want to engage in activities that are sure to derail your eating plan, like partying and attending eating engagements, and your kids cry for attention every time you head out the door to the gym, or to go for a quick jog.
Why does it feel like the ones you love are trying to help you fail?
Well, the answers are not that hard to come by when you really think about it.
While for the most part, those closest to you only want to see you happy, they can also be afraid of the changes that occur when you take a proactive stand at achieving something new in your life. Sometimes they're afraid that they'll get left behind, or that they will somehow become less of a priority in your life as you become this assertive, confident, accomplished new person.
Let's face it; losing weight is empowering, and it's bound to change your personality in ways that threaten and shake the foundation of those that depend on you. Especially spouses, mates, close relatives, children, and sometimes even your very best friends. People that are used to you putting your needs aside to be there for them will sometimes express the most resistance to your newfound sense of self.
For a husband or boyfriend, seeing you become more confident and attractive is definitely a threat. It's a known fact that many partners actually take an active role in sabotaging their other half's self esteem because of their own possessiveness and low self esteem issues. The better you start to look and feel about yourself, the bigger a threat it becomes to the hold they have on you. They'd rather see you remain overweight and insecure. That way they'll have less fear of you ever wanting to leave.
Is your spouse or girlfriend complaining that you work out too much, or that your workouts are taking time away from them? Do they ridicule your fitness and weight loss efforts instead of supporting you completely? If so, this might be a sign of an unhealthy relationship where the person's need to control and possess you supercedes seeing you healthy and doing well. Continued...