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Sunday, December 21, 2008

Sex and the Single Diva

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yummy411 said...

happy holidays! i love your list which sounds so like me, which scares me about getting married, but i still have the idea that i 'think' i do want to be married =((

PaulsHealthblog.com said...


I've been married close to ten years now, and do not have to step into the next room when I have gas. That's why I bought a dog, to blame it on him.

Merry Christmas!

Health And Weight Loss/ Avy said...

lol!! @ Paul

Hey Diva,

I've been married for 5 years now and also have 2 kids. We have our ups and downs (who doesn't), but our marriage is growing stronger by the day.

You're right though, marriage is not for everyone.

Happy Holidays!!!

The Fitness Diva said...

Lol, yummy... it might be for you, you never know! I'm just not a traditional girl wanting traditional things!
You will figure it out sooner or later...

LMAO, Paul! Damn! I never thought of getting a dog for that. Certainly would solve that problem!;)

Good for you, Avy. I know some happily married people, too.
It is work, though, and you have to want to do it. Many do find it worth all the effort it takes!
Happy Holiday to ya! :)

Laura-Junkfoodaholic.com said...

Oh Diva, you made me laugh so hard I had tears! I loved your post. And don't let Paul kid ya. He does step into another room to pass gas... and I HEAR IT! Bwahahahahahaha! So when he comes back into the room, I say, "I HEARD THAT!" :) I hope you have a wonderful holiday. Merry Christmas! P.S. And another thing, blaming it on the dog thing doesn't work. You can't mistake a dog fart! hehehehe

Leo (Healthy Tips For A Healthy Lifestyle) said...

Interesting reading of being single. Well, I should know too, lol.

Hmm... You've been married for 10 yrs, and is now divorced... Did you marry at age 15 or something?!

The Fitness Diva said...

LOL, Laura! It would have to be a really big dog, wouldn't it? ;)

Leo, I was married at the age of 12, actually! That's my story.... ;)

Robin said...

Hi Fitness Diva,
When you get older, who will help take care of you? I really hope your banker friend sticks around, you just never know what plans God has for you. Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays! :-)

PS: Married life isn't so bad. I get to do anything I want to. Life is real good. Take good care! :-)

ktales said...

Adding onto Pauls comment - we have a dog and it's also fun to take the blame for when the dog actually does it.

As long as your happy, then you're good to go. You shouldn't have to anything just because it's a traditional social issue.

Merry Christmas

Kt- contest prep

papabear said...

Guess what? This is the longest blog post that I have ever read from the start to the end this year! LOL!

Anyway, knowing what to do with your own life and making your own choices and decisions are what living is all about...

Happy Holidays!!!

The Fitness Diva said...

Robin...if your husband died today (God forbid), who would take care of you? You would, right? Right.

Being married and having someone in your life right now is no guarantee that they'll still be with you in your twilight years. Nothing is guaranteed.
I was just watching a documentary about these women with breast cancer, and among other things, it touched on how many of their husbands left them after they got mastectomies, or just one breast removed and began going through treatment. These men loved them, right? The missing breast shouldn't even matter. Who is going to take care of them? They are. They will take care of themselves.

Sorry, and don't mean to take you to task here, but I just don't think like you. I also don't think that your way of thinking about the future is realistic.
Optimistic? Sure.
But there's no guarantee that someone will be there to take care of you. If there is, then great. If not, then what?
I've never been a co dependent person, and will always trust that my decisions in life are the right ones. We are NOT all the same!

Glad that you are happy to be married!

Enjoy your holiday too! ;)

The Fitness Diva said...

shaxx, I'm glad you took the time to read it! I have to admit, I did get a bit passionate about my subject and carried away here!

I promise to never blog another such long post again! At least not without cutting it short and putting "Read the rest here" to give you the option!
Take care! :)

BeadedTail said...

I enjoyed this post and certainly see why you are enjoying being single! I've been married for 20 years, over half my life actually, and am very happy. To me what is important is having someone to share things with - when you want to of course. Single and alone is totally different than single with friends and family around. Your happiness shows through! Enjoy your holiday!

P.S. Good riddance to that ex who hated cats! =^..^=

The Fitness Diva said...

Yes, Beaded, I have a great circle of like minded friends, who are supportive, my second family and who get it. Some want to be hooked up for life, and others are just content to go with the flow. That's the way it should be; to each his/her own.

LOL about the ex hating cats!

Yeah, well I got two cats now, so anybody that really wants me has to get through them first(and they are NOT looking to share their Mommy! ;))

Happy Holiday to you and the babies!

Pam said...

I'm with you! Was married, but now divorced for ohhh, like 18 years! It's an acquired taste for some people. But I have many married friends who envy my lifestyle. Do what I want when I want to do it. Have great friends to socialize with when I want. Men come and men go. And you're definitely right, the only person you can depend on to take care of you is you.
Besides, no one would ever put up with my two dogs and two cats! Sometimes I even have trouble with that one!
Great post.
Enjoy the holidays!

Leo (Healthy Tips For A Healthy Lifestyle) said...


Babette said...

Marriage is not for everyone. Good for you that you figured it out early. Some people shouldn't stay married but they're too afraid to be alone.
Btw, hubby does it whenever and wherever, and we don't have a dog. LOL
Merry Christmas! :o)

Daisy said...

Happy Holidays!

Furkidsmom said...

Have a wonderful Holiday!

We think anyone who hates cats shouldn't be trusted!!!!! You made the right decision!!

Sniffie and the Florida Furkids

maricel said...

hi diva, paul is so funny...i never thought of getting dog too. i am married for 2 years now. i am happy and contented. it's your own choice what do you want to do in life. i can do blogging while my husband playing his game.

Dori said...

I loved this post! You just went all the way with your feelings and I love it! This was a long post, but it didn't feel long as I read it :) I was enthralled. I'm married, but I totally get what you are saying here. I loved being single and was single for quite a while. As you said, people have different ideas of how they want to live their lives and that is how it should be. You have a Merry Christmas Diva ;-)

Robin said...

Hey Fitness Diva,
I know that none of us is guaranteed tomorrow. I wasn't just meaning my husband, I was also thinking about my kids and just not being alone in life if I live to be old. I didn't mean to step on your toes. I think it is great that you are happy. Wishing you all the best in everything you do. Take good care and I enjoy reading your blog. Many Blessings For You! :-)

la said...

Good for you, Miss Diva! It took me two marriages (the last one just now ending after 15 years--btw, I just moved from NC) and 45 years to come to the same conclusion. You are ahead of the curve!

Happy Holidays!

miss tique said...

Happy holidays to you, too!

And keep up the spirit and the fun, as much as the realistic way of seing life.

Take care and order a vodka on the rocks for me at your next party. :P I will sure have one for you! :)

Jacqueline said...

Well, that's what a DIVA is all about...decorating her own soul, calling her own shots...and a right to change her mind whenever she chooses to do so. I wish that all people would find their comfy space in life then maybe, just maybe, they would be much nicer and interesting people. :-)

Keep on living life with passion!

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