Those of you that attend any gym regularly and take classes know a bit about territorialism. You know...the phenomenon where folks think they own a particular spot because they've been there every week for the past whatever amount of time, and don't you dare try to set up in their coveted space? I have been going to the gym forever and still just don't get it. As far as I'm concerned, a spot is just a damned spot.
Do you not realize that your name is not printed there on the floor, and it really is a case of first come first served? Ladies and gents, believe it or not, I have seen people actually come to blows over a particular spot on the studio room floor.
Now, this next phenomenon I like to call "I'm not moving for anybody, I don't care". Exerciser A has come in and set up their step, weights, etc, and the class is beginning to get full. Here comes exerciser B, wanting to set up next to A at a respectable distance, but A refuses to move over one little inch. Even after being asked NICELY.
And there IS enough room for A to do so. I have witnessed this mean, selfish, irrational behavior from folks of all ages, 18 to 80, and from some of the nicest people otherwise.
Yesterday I had to intervene and ask a woman to please move her step over to accommodate the new person, and she finally did it after I shamed her a bit...begrudgingly. The woman had a ton of space in front of and around her, and could have done it easily without making a fuss, but acted like something was be taken away from her as a person just to accommodate someone else. What is the deal with that?
I always move over to accommodate other people, and don't think a thing of it. What is wrong with people who don't want to be courteous to others, even when it just plain makes commmon sense?
I still remember a day when I was teaching on the Upper East Side some years ago. Once again, B asked A to move over. A refused. B, being a bit assertive began moving the stuff over FOR A herself. Screaming and yelling commenced from A, a tug of war began over a dumb bell, and A actually won the tug o war and then threw the dumbbell at B (it missed....because B moved really quickly out of the way). I was like, WHOA!!! I ran and got a manager, and they both got kicked out.
Now, does it REALLY have to come to all that over a spot on the gym floor, people???
OMG! Be courteous, be nice, and just treat people the way you would want them to treat you. Why is that SO hard? Why does it feel like I'm teaching and entertaining 4 years olds on certain days? (those of you that do this).